<p>When someone you know has attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), supporting them can be a delicate balance. While you want to help them, you also want to respect their independence and avoid overstepping boundaries. Find out how to help someone with ADHD here. </p><p>In this article, we discuss the ins and outs of supporting individuals with ADHD and offer insights on how to be supportive without being overbearing. By familiarizing yourself with the challenges those with ADHD face and gaining a deeper understanding of this neurotype, you can offer meaningful support and encouragement.&nbsp;</p><div class="wp-block-klarity-cta-banner-section-v3 k-cmp k-section cmp-cta-banner-section cmp-layout--r-img cmp-background--sky-mist cmp-img-type--image cmp-img-mode--cover cmp-img-effect--none" style="--cmp-background-color:#e5f3fe" data-layout="r-img"><div class="k-section-inner"><div class="k-row"><div class="k-col"><h2 class="k-headline"><br>Treatment for ADHD is a click away</h2><div class="k-desc"><p>Have an appointment within 24 hours*</p></div><a class="k-cta k-cta--button" href=https://www.helloklarity.com/condition/adhd target="_blank">Find a provider</a></div><div class="k-col"><figure class="k-img-wrapper"><img decoding="async" class="k-img" src="https://cms.helloklarity.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/ADHD-doctor-online.jpg" alt="Woman in blue shirt talking to ADHD doctor online via telehealth" title=""></figure></div></div></div></div><p>If you suspect someone close to you is grappling with ADHD, providers on Klarity Health can help. Encourage them to make a telehealth appointment where they can discuss their condition with a licensed healthcare provider and explore suitable treatment options. On Klarity Health, they won’t have to worry about planning a commute or spending time in a waiting room — instead, they can receive professional medical guidance from the comfort and convenience of their own home. </p><p>Your friend or loved one can <a href=https://care.klarityadhd.com/assessment/get-started target="_blank" rel="noopener" target="_blank">find a provider</a> and schedule an appointment at the time you choose, and often in as little as 24 hours.* They don&#8217;t need insurance and there are no hidden fees.</p><h2 class= "subtitle" id='heading_2_Overview_of_ADHD'>Overview of ADHD</h2><p>ADHD often begins in childhood and can afflict a person throughout their lifetime. It&#8217;s characterized by an inability to concentrate, along with several other related <a href=https://www.helloklarity.com/post/adhd-symptoms-in-adults/ target="_blank">ADHD symptoms</a>. ADHD is said to occur in 4% to 5% of adults in the U.S., many of whom remain undiagnosed. If you’re wondering how to help someone with ADHD, it’s important to know whether they actually have the condition.</p><p>While they share some symptoms, adult ADHD differs from childhood ADHD and can be more difficult to diagnose.&nbsp;And while many of us exhibit a few of the symptoms of ADHD, those with the disorder often manifest most or all of the following:</p><ul><li>Problems prioritizing tasks</li><li>Inability or trouble focusing on tasks</li><li>Disorganization</li><li>Impulsivity</li><li>Restlessness</li><li>Inability to effectively manage time</li><li>Trouble making and sticking to plans</li><li>Forgetfulness</li><li>Irritability</li><li>Extreme impatience</li><li>Quickness to anger/hot temper</li><li>Problems coping with stress</li></ul><h2 class= "subtitle" id='heading_2_Why_people_with_ADHD_need_help'>Why people with ADHD need help</h2><p>ADHD in adulthood can be difficult to manage. It can take a toll both in relationships and in professional lives. Many people with ADHD feel overwhelmed, so understanding their condition and reaching out to them can help considerably.</p><p>Helping an adult with ADHD is different than helping a child. Adults with ADHD can be embarrassed by their symptoms, which complicates how you help them. In addition, many ADHD diagnoses are determined in childhood, so an adult may not be aware they have the disorder. ADHD is a confusing disorder, which is why afflicted adults can benefit from help.</p><p>Here are 7 ideas to help someone who you think has ADHD.</p><h2 class= "subtitle" id='heading_2_7_Tips_for_Helping_Someone_with_ADHD'>7 Tips for Helping Someone with ADHD</h2><h3 class="wp-block-heading">1. Learn about ADHD</h3><p>The best way to learn how to help someone with ADHD is to learn what you can about the disorder and <a href=https://www.helloklarity.com/service/adhd-treatment/ target="_blank">ADHD treatment</a>. Navigating life with ADHD can be extremely challenging, and finding someone who understands is a relief. Learning about ADHD puts you in a better position to help.<br><br>Learn more about the<a href=https://www.helloklarity.com/post/7-types-of-adhd/ target="_blank"> 7 types of ADHD</a>.</p><h3 class="wp-block-heading">2. Don’t act like a parent</h3><p>People with ADHD already have or had parents; they don’t need more. It’s best to meet them on equal ground, not from a position of authority (whether it’s intentional or not). Parenting those with ADHD can breed resentment and make them resistant to your help.</p><h3 class="wp-block-heading">3. Understand their challenges</h3><p>This goes hand in hand with learning about ADHD. While you learn how to help someone with ADHD, you learn the challenges they face on a daily basis. This lets you better help them face and cope with those challenges.</p><h3 class="wp-block-heading">4. Avoid minimizing their ADHD</h3><p>While you understand what someone with ADHD is going through, unless you have the disorder yourself, it can be a challenge to truly put yourself in their shoes. Don’t fall into the trap of saying “it’s not that bad” or, worse, “don’t be <a href=https://www.helloklarity.com/post/adhd-or-am-i-lazy/ target="_blank">lazy.</a>” Chances are it is that bad and that even while they are distracted, they’re working as hard as they can.</p><h3 class="wp-block-heading">5. Help them develop a routine</h3><p>One of the symptoms of ADHD is disorganization, or trouble putting things in order. Another is poor time management. One of the best ways to help someone with ADHD is to help them build a solid routine. Work with them to plan their day. Celebrate success, even if it’s partial. Once established, a routine can help them with other symptoms of ADHD, such as forgetfulness. <br><br>Find <a href=https://www.helloklarity.com/post/time-management-adhd-adults/ target="_blank">11 tips for ADHD time management for adults</a> for ideas on how to help someone with ADHD better manage their time.</p><h3 class="wp-block-heading">6. Help them develop a support network&nbsp;</h3><p>You can’t be the only one. When you find other people in your partner or colleague’s life who are interested in learning how to help someone with ADHD, you’ve relieved yourself of some of the burden while increasing their chances of success. In addition, encourage them to reach out to and become part of local and virtual ADHD support groups. It helps them to know they’re not going through this alone, and they can benefit from the experiences of others who also deal with this disorder.</p><h3 class="wp-block-heading">7. Encourage them to get help from one or more ADHD specialists</h3><p>People struggling with ADHD don’t have to do so alone. While you’re doing your best to help, your assistance in day-to-day life can’t take the place of that provided by a qualified therapist. Help your friend<a href=https://www.helloklarity.com/ target="_blank"> find an ADHD therapist</a>, and encourage them to make and keep an appointment. Help remind them when it is, so they don’t miss it and potentially miss out on the help a practitioner experienced with ADHD can provide. Along with talk therapy, there are <a href=https://www.helloklarity.com/post/adhd-medication-guide/ target="_blank">ADHD medications</a> that can help reduce symptoms and let people to live a normal life.</p><h2 class= "subtitle" id='heading_2_How_to_help_someone_with_ADHD_and_anger_issues'>How to help someone with ADHD and anger issues</h2><p>People with ADHD often exhibit anger or <a href=https://www.helloklarity.com/post/adhd-anger-in-adults/ target="_blank">ADHD rage</a>, often at those who are trying to help. Figuring out how to best help someone with ADHD involves understanding that they’re likely to get angry. Your assistance will best benefit them if you work to diffuse the situation.</p><h3 class="wp-block-heading">Acknowledge that their condition is real</h3><p>The symptoms of ADHD can be misunderstood as something everybody goes through from time to time. The difference is that someone afflicted with ADHD doesn’t often feel relief from those symptoms. The first step in diffusing some of the frustration and anger associated with this disorder is simply validating their experience. Acknowledge that you know they’re suffering from ADHD, which is a real medical condition.</p><h3 class="wp-block-heading">Help them identify their triggers</h3><p>Knowing what triggers one’s anger is the first step in avoiding it. Help your partner or colleague identify <a href=https://www.helloklarity.com/post/anger-and-adhd/ target="_blank">what causes them to become angry</a>. It could be something as simple as forgetting their keys that escalates their anger to include other people. Or they could be angry at themselves, which is counterproductive. Help them keep track of what causes their anger, then help them figure out how to avoid those situations.</p><h3 class="wp-block-heading">Work with them on coping strategies</h3><p>Living with ADHD can be difficult. But there are a number of coping strategies that make it less so. For example, you could help your partner or colleague learn to write down tasks, so they’re less likely to forget them.</p><h3 class="wp-block-heading">Help them find ADHD treatment</h3><p>Proper treatment can make a world of difference to someone with ADHD and may be the best way to help them with their disorder. If they’re undergoing treatment and it’s not working, they may need to find a new therapist. If they’ve not had treatment, it may be a good time to start. Help them find a therapist they’ll like, and help them remember to keep appointments. This could be a fresh start toward a manageable life.</p><h3 class="wp-block-heading">You don’t have to go it alone</h3><p>Supporting someone with ADHD may feel overwhelming, but you don&#8217;t have to navigate it alone. Klarity Health can help connecting someone you care about with a licensed healthcare provider right from the comfort of home.</p><p>Empower your friend or loved one to take the first step on their ADHD journey. <a href=https://www.helloklarity.com/condition/adhd target="_blank">Find a provider</a> and schedule an appointment today.</p><div class="wp-block-klarity-faq-section k-cmp k-section cmp-faq-section cmp-layout--default cmp-style--undefined" data-layout="default"><div class="k-section-inner"><div class="k-section-head"></div><div class="k-section-content"><dl class="k-faq-list"><dt class="k-faq-q"><h3>How we reviewed this article</h3></dt><dd class="k-faq-a"><p>This article went through rigorous fact-checking by a team of medical reviewers. Reviewers are trained medical professionals who ensure each article contains the most up-to-date information, and that medical details have been correctly interpreted by the author. 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